I heard a story recently, somehow it inspired me to write it down.
I think it plays as a strong reminder to us, Malaysians, who are always perceived as narrow-minded people
, which is totally true.
A young girl who just graduated, was found to be pregnant.
Marriage was forced to be done with the yet-to-be-born-baby`s father.
As everyone in the family were rushing to finish off the wedding, the bride`s younger sister was found to be pregnant too.
To make things worse, the younger sister is already 6-months pregnant, while the elder sister was only 4 months.
(You got my point right?)
Imagine the reaction of the mother, who happened to be on a divorce procedures with her husband.
Maybe just to make things a little bit clearer, that girl was only 17 years old, dating with a younger boyfriend who is still studying.
So who`s fault is this?
I`m not trying to put the blames on anyone, just to point out the fact that we`ve really overlooked many things when everyone else on the planet is already stressing a lot on birth-control.
How many parents would tell their children to take safety measures while having sex?
In contrast, how many parents are actually telling their children NOT to have sex?
Let`s just put this in another way.
Did you tell your son to get himself a condom and remind him to put it on whenever need arises?
Or, did you tell your daughter NOT to let her boyfriend unwrapped her?
(hopefully I did not make it sound too horny)
I once heard from some Dutch friends that, their parents would actually tell their son where they keep the condoms. Just in case they need it, it is there!
I`m not trying to urge you to be as open-minded as them
(as that would take centuries to happen), nor am I trying to encourage to sex-before-marriage or whatever you call it.
It`s just that parents have to start changing their way of educating.
Would they actually listen to you
DON`Ts? Obviously, you know they don`t.
So, it`s time to change your strategy and start telling them the
DOs.
Unless you would rather experience the situation where your daughter/son coming back home one day and telling you she/his girlfriend is already pregnant for several months.
Just another remark.
If they inform you immediately after they knew it themselves, Congratulations! It shows that you`re still realible.
Otherwise, you just need to think over your role as a parent.
If you`re a parent reading this, start talking to your children but not forbiding them to do so.
Get a younger and closer relative to talk to them if you feel that you do not want to encourge them to have sex `indirectly`.
If you`re a attached guy/girl, for god`s sake, read up some safe-sex materials, it`s everywhere on the internet!
(Some studies reveal that some undergrads are not even sure whether kissing can cause pregnancy)
Get yourself a
condom.
Most importantly, wear it in time.
If you`re too shy/timid to buy it, for everyone`s sake, don`t have sex.
If you`re a unmarried youth who happen to be pregnant/suspicous of it, take up some courage and tell an adult. Admit it, you`re just too confused on what to do next all alone.
Not brave enough? Do a home-pregnancy-test by yourself, that thing won`t cost you more than RM10 in Guardian or Watsons.
Again, this post is merely aiming to encourage safe sex and reduce social problems.
It`s really annoying sometimes to see people continue to live in their own stubborn way of living.
Wear a condom, in time.
